Turns out Wounded Healers have the most to give. A while back I made the fatal mistake of breaking No Contact. I ended up on the receiving end of a narcissistic rage attack. The attack came via a stream of nasty emails. I did not respond and will be holding my No...

No. A few months ago, I decided to break No Contact. I was feeling particularly vulnerable that day. Someone had attempted to steal my cellphone while I was hiking on Lion’s Head in Cape Town. I managed to get away, but in the process, I fell down a steep slope and...

Beware of the do-gooders who make a big show of how charitable they are. After watching the Jimmy Saville documentary on Netflix, I was shocked at how this predator hid in plain sight. Interestingly, he did what most narcissists do — he continually told people exactly...

It’s time to dig really deep into the WHY. Being stabbed in the back is one of the most painful human experiences. Betrayal cuts like a knife and it forever changes you. Being hurt by someone who is supposed to love you can take years to recover from. You lose your...

10 signs to look out for.   “Hello Handsome.” “Good morning, beautiful.” “Sleep tight my beautiful angel.” Who doesn’t love getting regular texts from their partner? When you are dating, it’s intoxicating. It signals that the other person is thinking of you. It...

The cords that bind.   The narcissistic mother burns a lot of energy maintaining her image and her mask. Her plotting and scheming drains her physically and emotionally. When it comes to parenting, she does not have much energy left. She turns to her children for...

Closing the door on your past is the hardest thing you will ever do. It’s also the most empowering. You don’t randomly wake up one day on the wrong side of the bed and flippantly decide to cut your mother or father out of your life. Rather, it’s a difficult decision...

And what you can do about it.   Have you ever been in a situation where you were totally relaxed one moment, then completely freaked out and triggered the next? As the dust settled, you felt confused and bewildered because you didn’t understand what had just happened...

As painful as it is, it’s still the best position to be in. At least you are free. If you were the scapegoat or black sheep in your family you probably felt like you were always in trouble. One wrong move and it was game over. You were always too loud, too quiet, to...