They can be so hidden that you don’t see them at all.   I looked at the photo my partner had taken of me standing in the kitchen. I was shocked at how different I looked. How on earth did I get here? I had been unwell and was on medication for two debilitating...

  8 steps to start your healing journey   It’s taken decades, but you’ve finally figured out that one (or more) of your caregivers or parents are narcissists. After years of confusion and chaos, you feel a rush of relief wash over you. For the first time ever,...

And what to do about it.   Do you dread going to work? Are you feeling so stressed out that when you’re away from your job, it’s all you can talk about? Are you working round the clock trying to prove yourself but the goalposts keep shifting? Are you tying...

It’s all about control and stealing your emotional energy.   Growing up in a narcissistic home is hell. It’s particularly painful because you grow up thinking that love equals pain. Your needs don’t exist, your opinions are countered and your feelings are denied....

If you are a scapegoat, you did not deserve it and I believe you.   Nobody has your back. You’ve had to figure life out on your own without any support which has made you super independent. Unfortunately, your ultra-independence is a trauma response. Others view...

They show you what love is not A narcissist has to stay in control at all times. When they are not in your physical presence, they need to continue getting emotional energy from you. This need for control and narcissistic supply makes them behave in very odd ways. At...

Make yourself difficult to manipulate. According to Sandra Brown, in her book, Women Who Love Psychopaths: Inside the Relationships of inevitable Harm With Psychopaths, Sociopaths & Narcissists, the majority of psychopaths are men. They prey on women who are...

Narcissists are often found in positions of power, so it would be no surprise, really. "You get the feeling that Planet Earth is Satan’s playground.” On my way back from Zimbabwe recently, I was chatting to my driver, Ella, a strong, intelligent, brave and Godly...

They are sneaky and covert — watch out! Female narcissists are like spiders, spinning their invisible webs so that they can trap and ultimately, feed off of you. When they infiltrate your family or social circle they come across as loving, charming, nurturing and...