This deeply saddens me for 3 reasons:

FIRSTLY, they never get to experience real LOVE because they think pain is love.

SECONDLY, they never get to experience the FULFILLMENT that comes from building a healthy, reciprocal relationship.

THIRDLY,  (this is really heartbreaking), they get discouraged, lose confidence and often give up on love all together…

They never get to discover that what they were looking for was inside them all along.

If you keep choosing people who don’t choose you, you may be playing out an old story from childhood.

Childhood abuse sets you up for abusive relationships in adulthood. You subconsciously recognize this behavior and feel comfortable with it because it’s what you know.

You’re used to having your feelings ignored and your emotions minimized.

So, even if it’s unhealthy, because you’re used to it, you’re comfortable with it.

If you had a nice childhood, a nice person is going to feel like home.

If you’ve grown up with abusers, you feel attracted to the type of energy that narcissists and abusers have.

You don’t intentionally choose to be in a relationship with a narcissist but you have unconscious patterns that make them feel so familiar, that you feel attracted to them.

Do you:

Attract avoidant, unavailable or narcissistic partners?

Find yourself walking on eggshells

Sacrifice your needs or hide what you really want in a relationship for fear of being too “needy”?

I want you to know it’s not your fault!

Somewhere deep inside of you, is an old pattern or program that is keeping you stuck in repeating cycles of pain and abandonment.

The good news?

You can release from the root cause and be free.

So what is narcissistic abuse really?

Let’s clear this up because this term is thrown around so much these days, it’s often misunderstood.

Narcissistic abuse describes a specific type of emotional abuse that comes from a person with narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). People with NPD have no empathy and see others as objects to be used and abused.

If you were raised by parents or caregivers who had NPD, you’ve probably found yourself in similar relationship dynamics in adulthood.

Toxic relationships are your normal.

In childhood you adapted to the abuse and learned to tolerate it. So, as an adult, you don’t recognize abuse as abuse. For you, abuse is love. Pain is love. This is the distortion you want to heal.

Maybe your story is a bit different because you had a happy childhood. Yet, you still found yourself entangled in an abusive and toxic relationship.

There’s nothing wrong with you.

Narcissists know how to turn on the charm. They love bomb you and reel you in. They are very adept at manipulation. Anyone can fall victim to the narcissist’s fantasy.

The secret is to educate yourself so that you become immune to manipulation.

Ready to start healing so that you can reclaim your sense of self? I can help you heal your heart and allow love back in.

I’ve seen over and over again how when my clients focus on loving themselves, they make progress quickly. They stop allowing users, abusers and narcissists to suck up weeks, months and even years of their lives!

I’ve worked with hundreds of men and women who’ve gone on to…

Get their self-trust and intuition back online

Love themselves enough to put boundaries in place and stop people-pleasing

Marry the love of their lives after giving up on love completely

Reclaim their personal power

Break trauma-bonds and release their addiction to the narcissist

Respect themselves enough to leave a toxic job or relationship

Build new lives, grounded in love, respect and safety.

Positive results that all stemmed from focusing on what really matters: Loving themselves!

So why am I so passionate about getting you to see your own worth, value and light?

Because I was once in your shoes.

I know what’s it’s like to…

Lose yourself in a relationship

Walk on eggshells, terrified of setting the narcissist off

Cry every single day, trying to understand how someone can be so cruel (SPOILER ALERT: It’s because they have no empathy)

Feel hopeless and discouraged because you doubt that you can take care of yourself.

Feel defeated by ill health and autoimmune diseases

Feel trapped because staying with the abuser… feels safer than leaving.

And today, after 8 years of coaching and learning the hard way… I’m here to show you how much easier your healing journey can be when you keep it simple and focus on the right things in the right order!

I know you have MANY options when it comes to investing in yourself …

And I know finding the right coach can sometimes feel like searching for a needle in a haystack… So let me lay out a few ways of how working with me is unique.

I’m faith-based

True, deep soul-level healing happens when you believe in a Higher Power. When you know your Heavenly Father has your back, you can let go and surrender to the fact that you don’t have to do it alone. A lot of coaches use New Age and New Thought teachings in their programs (I was one of them!) What I’ve learned is that no healing modality comes close to the healing power of God and the Holy Spirit. Allowing Jesus to guide you on your healing journey not only speeds up the process, but it renews your spirit. You also come to realize that narcissists and abusers are distractions sent by the enemy. They create the illusion that they are your source of love. This is the big lie. God is your true source. He leads to back to yourself with gentleness and patience.

I’m experienced

This should be a given, but unfortunately, in the online world, anyone can claim to be an expert. It’s important to approach finding your coach with caution! Since 2015, I’ve worked with hundreds of clients across the globe, which has given me more experience than my Diplomas or Coaching Certifications could ever teach me! You can read my client’s testimonials here.

I’ve been through it and deeply understand it

I have been in the trenches and I have come out the other side. I do believe you can heal from narcissistic abuse, but I’m not going to pretend that it’s easy. I can help make your path easier, but you’ll need to put in the work and commitment. I can tell you it will be 100% worth it.

Honesty is one of my values, therefore, if investing in one of my programs isn’t the right fit, I’LL TELL YOU, rather than letting you dish out your hard-earned money for something that won’t serve your healing journey.

There’s enough fake accounts, fake healers and fake gurus out there peddling their programs on the internet. When you enter my world, you can rest assured that I’ll give you TRUTH, honesty, safety, boundaries, love and respect.

I live what I teach

I’ve travelled, studied, researched, practiced and searched for the best healing techniques and processes to help facilitate your healing journey. I’ve gotten additional training in some, others I’ve let go of. I’m always studying, reading and learning more. I keep up to date with the latest trauma-informed research and trainings. When working with me you get the best of my accumulated knowledge and experience. I live a clean, sober life and and bring that clarity to all my work.

My background is in psychology, communications, marketing, copywriting and advertising. I’ve always had an entrepreneurial spirit and after 15 years in the advertising industry, I followed my calling to become an intuitive counsellor and life coach. I initially focused on assertiveness coaching and expanded into narcissistic abuse recovery and trauma-informed somatic bodywork. My work with you is all about healing you on the inside so that those shifts can appear on the outside!

If you are ready to heal your past, learn new skills, shift old beliefs and write a new story… then you’ll love working with me.

I GET what you are going through

My gifts are my faith, empathy and radar-like intuition. They enable me to deeply support you on your journey from victim to survivor to thriver. This is why it’s called it “Self-love Journeys” – I work with you to go within and heal the vulnerabilities, wounds and missing skills that made you vulnerable to the narcissist’s manipulation.

In my own life, I kept getting ensnared in relationships with narcissistic partners (and friends… and bosses!) After my fiancé betrayed and discarded me, I lost everything. I had to pick up the pieces of my life and come to terms with the fact that my chance to have a family had been stolen from me.

I found myself ruminating about my ex’s abusive behavior. I was so hurt and angry at how badly they had treated me. Their jaw-dropping cruelty and lack of empathy was unfathomable. I was desperately trying to understand how they could do that to me. I wanted to make sense of the experience. The problem, however, was that I was focusing on them and their behavior and once again, abandoning myself.

One day, whilst driving, I suddenly had a breakthrough. I asked myself: “Why did you allow him to abuse you? What was going on inside of you that allowed that to go on for so long?

That Aha! moment showed me that I was responsible for my healing. What he did to me was not my fault, but making sure it never happened again, was my responsibility.

I turned my attention back toward myself and focused on healing my life. I had a lot of inner work to do!

I wish I could say that I made better choices after my epiphany. But unfortunately, I still had more to learn. After the overt narcissist, I stepped straight into the web of a covert narcissist. And what made it more dangerous, is that I never saw it coming.

You see, I had overt, grandiose narcissists all figured out. I could spot them a mile away. But the woe-is-me, fragile, covert narcissist is a different animal. They are more stealth. You feel sorry for them and want to support them. I found myself married to a covert narcissist with co-morbid BPD.

On top of all this, I then discovered the deep betrayal within my own family. Like I said, I GET what you are going through. I had been trained for these types of relationships from birth and it’s taken me a lifetime to heal from them. My hope is that I can help you get there faster!

The power to transform lies with YOU changing how YOU show up in relationships.

On the #SelfLoveJourney you gain the courage to face the TRUTH.  You learn to discern what is okay and what is not. You learn to set BOUNDARIES and be witness to your own codependent or dysfunctional behaviors.

You notice when you are self-abandoning.

The thing is, there will always be narcissists and manipulators. The trick is: Do NOT LET THEM INTO YOUR LIFE. Educate yourself so that you become ‘manipulation and narc proof’.